Dad & fiancée exclude his daughter from their wedding after she bought a dress & shoes for it


    AM I WRONG FOR LETTING PEOPLE KNOW THE REAL REASON I WASN’T AT MY DAD’S WEDDING? I’ve always been pretty close to my dad. A few years ago, he started dating Anna. Anna and I always got along, so when my dad proposed, I was happy. It seemed like she would be a great stepmom. I bought a dress, shoes, etc., to look decent at their wedding, but a few weeks before the ceremony, my dad and Anna said they banned me from it. They decided to have a child-free wedding, which includes no one under 18. On the day of the wedding, I was still going to be 17, so, therefore, I was not allowed to be at the wedding because Anna wanted to stay true to the child-free rule, even for the daughter of the groom and her about-to-be stepdaughter. The funny thing is my 18th birthday was just two days after the wedding. But still, I wasn’t allowed to go. My mom ended up taking me on a birthday vacation, and yesterday I posted birthday pictures on Facebook. I wrote, “I’m so glad my dad and Anna didn’t allow me at their wedding since I was under 18; I feel more mature since yesterday.” The family was freaking out, asking if that was true and bashing my dad and Anna. I later got a bunch of texts from my dad and Anna calling me immature and selfish and saying that’s why I was too immature to be at a wedding. I would like to know, am I wrong for letting people know the real reason I wasn’t at my dad’s wedding?



    On Reddit, users can publish personal narratives and solicit feedback from other users on choices they have made.

    Recently, a teenage girl revealed that she was not invited to her father’s and his fiancée’s wedding, and she gave a terrible explanation for their decision.

    “My dad and I (f18) were always quite close. closer to my mom, although I spent a lot of time (about three to four times a week) with my dad. A few years back, he began dating “Anna.” I was thrilled when my dad proposed to me because Anna seemed like a wonderful stepmother,” she began her essay.


    OP expressed her excessive excitement and excitement for the wedding. After she purchased a dress and shoes, her father informed her that he and his fiancée needed to speak with her regarding a crucial matter.

    “Well, after I had purchased the dress, shoes, and other items a few weeks before the wedding, my dad and Anna said they needed to “speak to me.” My dad and Anna also decided against having children at the ceremony, which I understood to be especially important for small children.


    It appears that not having children entails not having any minors. I was still going to be 17 on the wedding day, but Anna didn’t want me to attend because she wanted to uphold the child-free policy even for the groom’s daughter and her soon-to-be stepdaughter.


    OP was devastated and informed her mother what her father and Anna had said to her. As devastated as her daughter, the mother decided to send her on vacation in an attempt to lift her spirits. The mother revealed to the other members of the family what her ex-husband had done to their daughter at the same time. It makes sense that the majority of them were astonished and upset. Later, OP added, “I’m so glad my dad and Anna didn’t let me at their wedding since I was under 18; I feel more mature since yesterday,” alongside birthday photos on Facebook.

    The family was berating my dad and Anna and freaking out, wondering whether that was true. I was too immature to be at a wedding, according to a series of texts I later received from my dad and Anna, who called me a selfish brat and immature. I was talking to some pals when they told me that I should have simply let it go and that I was kind of an AH for doing that.


    Fellow Redditors shared their opinions and agreed that OP wasn’t an AH for telling the family what her dad did to her.

    “NTA. Who is this father who doesn’t bring his kid to his wedding? In any case, they took the decision; if they thought it was the right one, they shouldn’t mind it being known to the public. Furthermore, people would likely think you skipped the event because you didn’t like his new wife or preferred to go on vacation. One person said, “Make sure people know WHY you weren’t there to save your reputation.”

    “You were meant to have no children. I apologize, but please consider that. That rule was her way of keeping you out. Now that you are aware of their marital status, you are not. I truly apologize. N.T.A. I believe it was AMAZING. Epic but brutal. More than that was due to them. Another person said, “I would even update it with pictures of their texts.”

    “I can’t help but wonder if she purposely picked a date before OP’s birthday just so she couldn’t go,” a third person commented. The dad and stepmother could have made sure the date was after OP’s birthday but only two days before if they had intended to keep it child-free but still ensure OP was present. No, they weren’t interested in having her there and were merely attempting to make an excuse.

    We believe the dad was not right for excluding his daughter from the wedding.

    What are your thoughts on this?